Life is happening because you say so
The facts of what happened, are facts.
What meaning you gave what happened to you, is the story you have been telling yourself about your past.
What narrative are you currently writing for your future?
What perception are you looking at it with? Is it hopeful? Victim? Are you powerless? Are you empowered?
What if you decided to do something insane and start telling yourself a totally different story about the way life is?