Let your instincts be your guide

You don’t owe anyone shit...

This includes not having to explain to others you do what you do, want what you want, or choose what you choose.

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Can it be OK that you… just… do?

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As a recovering people pleaser with a PhD in “validate me”, it was so easy to fall into the pattern of thinking that required me to explain my decisions in order for them to be seen as acceptable decisions.

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As a dopamine centered society, we are like “love me” addicts, looking for validation, justification, and approval from the world around us that has us forget that we already hold the authority within ourselves.

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Here is the truth: You don’t actually need to explain any further. You and you alone are the decision maker, with or without the world’s permission.

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You have the authority to discern whether or not to share your reasoning.

Whether or not the world agrees- is not your concern.

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Of course, there is extraordinary power in sharing your thought process as it can deepen a relationship and create understanding in others. And… it is never, and I mean never, a requirement.

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So here is the wisdom pill to explore:

You do not have to decide whether you will ALWAYS explain yourself or NEVER explain. There is in fact, a SPACE BETWEEN .

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What if you asked yourself, “what is the space between my Always and Never?”

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What is the option between this and that?

Is there a gray space where I can be in my authority AND be in connection with others?

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What feels safe, purposeful, and authentic to me?

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Remember, you don’t owe an answer to anyone but yourself!

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Let your instincts be your guide, not your obligation.